A Solution to School Violence in our Sights

By Mike Scinto

As seen in 

The Weekly Record Herald

and other fine Civitas Media Newspapers

I vividly remember the shock and horror as America watched the slaughter at Columbine High School unfold in 1999.  I’m sure all of us recall that day and the media analysis post-Columbine. That event really became the example used when those types of incidents occurred in the months and years that followed. We don’t really call them “Columbine-like” any longer. There are so many from which to choose, we don’t need that standard. Two more shootings in recent days, as the school years were winding down, has brought out the usual calls for dismantling the Second Amendment; as if that frightening solution would put to rest this kind of school violence.

I feel like I’m in the movie “Groundhog Day” as I address this. In that film star Bill Murray relives that end-of-winter forecast day over and over again. As I point out the lunacy of suggesting banning guns would be a fix to the school violence issue, I feel like I’ve said it over and over again on the radio, TV and in my column; and I have!

Guns are not the problem. People are the problem. I went to grade school and high school from 1958-1970. There were no Columbines. Now it’s rare to find a two week span where there isn’t a case of school violence. What’s changed?

Guns are MORE controlled than ever before today. I recall at the age of 10 living in suburban Memphis and owning a 12 gauge shotgun and a 22 caliber rifle. Even in grade school during hunting season we (students) would bring our guns into school and store them in our lockers so we could head out to the woods after the school day to hunt. I knew proper use of, and care of, my weapons and was not afraid but rather respected guns even at that young age. It didn’t promote violence.

Of course today if a student of any age, and at any school, brought their hunting weapon into school there would be SWAT teams and a sea of live vans for the networks on the campus as the student was strip-searched, cuffed and thrown in the police van.

The end of the nuclear family as we knew it is the reason for the problem. “Parents” more focused on career than parenting is at the root of this disease. We are given the gift of children not to “have” but to “nurture”. When parents decided to let their kids “do their own thing” is when this happened.

When parents are held criminally accountable for anything illegal their child does that’s when you'll find a solution; forced though it may be. I was a helicopter parent for our son. I can tell you where he was, who he was with and what he was doing 97% of the time until he was 18. And while he has made a few small bad decisions, we are very proud of him. If he said at 16 he was going to be at some location, I would be there (covertly) at some point to verify it. If he was NOT there, he was in his room for some number of days. If he had done or said something he shouldn't, it would happen one time only. It kept me burning candles at both ends but in my mind there is nothing more important for 18 years than the child we have been blessed with. That is our job, not a hobby. I learned that from my parents who handled me the same way.

Young people know they can threaten; threats of lawsuits, seeking emancipation, investigation by child social services are used all the time. Rather than “parent”, these adults allow their children all the freedom they want. And this is the result.

If I ever got in trouble in school I knew when I got home my father would punish me four times over; often using a belt on my bottom into my teens. He never drew blood or bruised me but it hurt. Today he’d go to jail for that. I thank God he did it!

No, the solution isn’t in disarming America and stripping away our Second Amendment rights it’s demanding that parents do what God intended for them to do in the first place; BE parents! There are obvious signs of issues with children that, if observed, can be seen. Kids who wear black trench coats to school on hot summer days, don’t participate outside the classroom with peers, have a fascination with weird Internet sites or hang posters of Charles Manson on their bedroom walls MIGHT need a little closer scrutiny.

Guns will never disappear, nor should they. I wish I could say the same about good parenting.